A mothers grief...

       

It's been a very sad time. My daughters father has three daughters by his first marriage. I was very close to the youngest one as she lived with us for a while, and when I had my daughter she even helped me a bit with things as I had to have a C section. Anyway long story short, she married and after a long period without being able to conceive  she finally had two boys. I was also close to them as they were always around me. The youngest (25) to whom she had given the names of my two sons, had gone to the states to work, things were going well and he was to be married soon.

This past December 31 he attended a New Years Eve get together at his fathers house, left right after New Years, snow had been falling and the roads were very icy, his car skidded on the ice and ended up crashing against a tunnel wall, he wasn't driving, his friend was, he was in the passenger side, the so called death seat. And so it was, he died as a result of his injuries. His mom was called on New Years Day with the horrible news. Anyway, the body could not be flown in because the airport closed due to the snowstorm, it wasn't till a week later that he finally arrived and the funeral could be held. Quite horrible.  I feel so sorry for her, she loved her sons so much. She is suffering so very much. The loss of a child is a forever hurt, for the rest of her life, and his brother is suffering also.

One of my memories of him is of him and his brother running into the house all scared looking and the oldest said to me, "Gaby shaved off half of his eyebrow and mommy's real mad" He had tried to trim them or something and lopped off half of his left eyebrow! So I looked at the damage and told them "come on I can fix that" I remember his little face as he looked up at me with such relief and said really can you?

I got two well sharpened eyebrow pencils, a brown and a black one, and began to draw in tiny little hairs and by the time I'd finished it looked like real hairs and a real eyebrow. They were so happy, they ran out to the mom she was visiting the house in front, and excitedly said "look mommy it's all fixed". She liked it : D I walked after them and showed her how to do it. I'll just never forget his little face of relief... Life is so freakin fleeting, it can be snatched away in a second...